God created family, and He created family to be good – to be a source of blessing, love, and instruction. But family doesn’t always feel like that, does it? Sometimes it feels like a struggle just to make it through the day. Family doesn’t always function the way God intended, mainly because individuals don’t always function how God intended. No matter what kind of a family you’re in, God intends for your family to be better than it is today. What will it take for your family to thrive in today’s broken world?
5:21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to Himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—30for we are members of His body. 31“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. 6:1Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—3“so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” 4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 5:21-6:4
Which TV show family is your favorite, and why?
Read Ephesians 5:21-6:4. What do you think of when you hear the word “submit”? What was the definition that Aaron gave in the sermon?* Does this definition affect how you view the word?
The default thinking on submission in most church circles is that a wife should submit to her husband. However, how does this passage begin? What do you think it means to “submit to one another”?
Read Philippians 2:6-8. What are some of the ways Jesus submitted?
Now read Philippians 2:5. How are you supposed to emulate Jesus?
Each person has a role to play in a family. List the role(s) that pertain to you from Ephesians 5:21-6:4. How can you live out your role in submission to others?
What are the two ways to improve your family that Aaron shared in the sermon? (See 1 Peter 2:17 and Mark 10:45.)
What are some ways that you can honor and serve your family?
Submit = hupotassoi (to voluntarily arrange yourself under someone for a good and proper purpose).
Take time this week to think about your family, and whether it is functioning the way God intended it to function. Aaron shared on Sunday that one of the best ways to adjust the spiritual temperature of your home is by increasing your level of service. How can you serve your family differently? Are there chores you could do without being asked? Could you go out of your way to do something your normally rely on your spouse to do? Pick one thing a day that you will put into practice with your family, and watch God begin to change the temperature in your home.
If you have elementary-aged children, text FAM to 797979; starting April 9, you will receive a text devotion for 31 days to do with your family.
FOR FURTHER STUDY
When your family is properly arranged in a united front reflecting Christ’s love, Satan will not be happy. Paul follows this passage on submission with an admonition to “put on the full armor of God”. Read Ephesians 6:10-18 and list below the types of armor and what their use is:
What pieces of armor are strengths for you? What pieces do you need to work on?
What does it look like practically to put on the armor of God each day? How can it be applied to your family?